Since I was not having any luck with getting back into the public school system, I decided to ʀᴇ-ᴇᴅᴜᴄᴀᴛᴇ myself.
I went back to school to study Bookkeeping; people always need help to get them organized with their finances.
While in this program, I met a very happy cheerful lady, lets caller Sᴜɴꜱʜɪɴᴇ, because she always seemed to be emanating this happy feeling to everyone. I also found out that she worked as a bookkeeper in the local pharmacy that I use. Small world.
We became study friends. We had great fun learning all about the fun topic of finance.
One evening we walked together to our cars, and I noticed that she had an “L” on her car, which meant, Learner (Level of Driving).
And I joked with her, thinking that it was for someone else.
But Sᴜɴꜱʜɪɴᴇ opened up to me. She told me that she was a housewife with three kids and that she never learned how to drive. It was her “L” on the car.
She found out doing the family taxes, that her husband was cheating on her. So, she left with the two younger kids, back to her parent's home.
Sᴜɴꜱʜɪɴᴇ had to learn how to drive and had to get a job. Two new things that she never thought she would have to do. She thought that she would live a happy life with her husband taking care of her and the kids, but that is not what happened.
I can’t imagine having to learn how to drive and get a job at 30 with 2 young children.
She is a tough woman and somehow knew what to do.
She is now studying to be a paralegal.
She is still fighting with her ex about
child support,
division of the family home,
and for a divorce. He can’t seem to let her go.
He wants to steal her light, but he can’t.
She is still Sᴜɴꜱʜɪɴᴇ, nothing can blot out her light!
Learning about her ordeal, it is so important to"
- Keep working
- Or preserving your own way to earn money.
- Or going to school to get a degree or a trade.
Another issue that I’m starting to notice is many housewives don’t know how to drive. Another smart thing my mom told me I had to do! At the time, I didn’t want to learn, but she is very persistent.
Let’s just say, I can drive!
“𝗘𝗱𝘂𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗻𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗯𝗲 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗻 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝘆𝗼𝘂”, wise words my mom always tells me. And it is true, my ex couldn’t take away my degrees or my education. It was mine to keep.
I was a housewife for two years, which was not because I wanted to be, but there were no opportunities for me. At least that is what he convinced me to believe. But I drove all over Puerto Rico…no problem. It was like a video game! How to get around horse, people, stopped cars, narrow roads and torrential rainstorms. Lots of fun.
My mom had some good advice. I’m grateful that I listened.