7 Easy Steps to Stay Miserable During and After Your Divorce

If you always wanted to know the secret of being miserable when you are divorcing, then you have found the right training for you. Each tool and activity are meant to build on the tools that came before it. There is no prize for completing all the activities at lightning speed. You are meant to dwell in each step for as long as it takes to master that step. 

๐ผ ๐“๐‘œ๐“‹๐‘’ ๐“‡๐“Š๐“๐‘’๐“ˆ!  So I will suggest many. 

๐…๐ข๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž: You must follow the steps in order. ๐’๐ž๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž: You must complete all the steps in order, to be completely miserable! ๐“๐ก๐ข๐ซ๐ ๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž: make sure you practice each step with everyone you encounter. ๐…๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ญ๐ก ๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž: This is a must if you are going to achieve the full Miserable self. You must be on autopilot โ€“ recycling the bad old behaviors and ideas that are not serving you. 

๐˜š๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฑ 1 ๐˜Š๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ง ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ

Start by scrolling your social media. Look for people who look like they have more money, a better body, trendier clothes, a larger friend group, and an overall easier life than you do. When you see your faults in these posts make sure to take a screen shot for later reference.

๐˜š๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฑ 2 ๐˜Š๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฑ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ

Find the most negative parts of everything in your life. Start making a list or better yet use Post-Its to remind you to tell people. Whatever you do, you can always find the negative in the wonderful. 

๐˜š๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฑ 3 ๐˜๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ง ๐Ÿ“ฆ

Do not go outside, stay in your room. You do not need anyone. If someone comes by, pretend you are out.  Loneliness is the best to create the true misery effect. 

๐˜š๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฑ 4 ๐˜š๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ต๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ด

Think only hypotheticals: What ifs?  What could go wrong? This is the question that you need to repeat in your mind. When you can no longer see any positive outcomes then you have reached the Stress out Phase. 

๐˜š๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฑ 5 ๐˜š๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฌ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜จ๐˜ข๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฑ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ท๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ

You are just like everyone else. Your joy comes when you look and act like everyone else because you want to be liked by everyone. Being different is so overrated. You will feel hollow, and your friendships are based entirely on what you want to show them.  

๐˜š๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฑ 6 ๐˜–๐˜ฏ๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ค๐˜ถ๐˜ด ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ด ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ

You will need pen and paper for this step. You will be creating a check off list of all the things that need to be completed by you, such as your career, home repair, studying etc. You are a doer and no time for anyone else. 

๐˜š๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฑ 7 ๐˜”๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ง๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐Ÿ˜ž ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฑ๐˜ฑ๐˜บ

The last step, on a daily basis, you will have to choose to be miserable and bitter every waking moment in your life. After 90 days it will become a habit, deeply engrained in your life so that it will be very difficult to unlearn this habit.

Do these traits sound familiar? ๐™๐™๐™š ๐™‚๐™ง๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™. In the beginning ๐™๐™๐™š ๐™‚๐™ง๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™โ€™๐™จ heart ๐Ÿ’Œwas so small that it was barely visible. He was jealous of the villagerโ€™s happiness and their love for one another. He hated their little community and tried to destroy it.

At the end of the story ๐™๐™๐™š ๐™‚๐™ง๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™โ€™๐™จ perspective changed. He discovered that it was more than just the outer appearance that kept the villagers together. During his transformation his heart grew and grew until it was so full of love.  His view of the world completely changed that day; he became master of his own life and choose happiness.  It wasnโ€™t not an easy choice he made and almost destroyed the whole village because he was so filled with misery that he wanted everyone to feel the way he felt.  

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