If you always wanted to know the secret of being miserable when you are divorcing, then you have found the right training for you. Each tool and activity are meant to build on the tools that came before it. There is no prize for completing all the activities at lightning speed. You are meant to dwell in each step for as long as it takes to master that step.
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๐ข๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐: You must follow the steps in order. ๐๐๐๐จ๐ง๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐: You must complete all the steps in order, to be completely miserable! ๐๐ก๐ข๐ซ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐: make sure you practice each step with everyone you encounter. ๐
๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ญ๐ก ๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐: This is a must if you are going to achieve the full Miserable self. You must be on autopilot โ recycling the bad old behaviors and ideas that are not serving you.
๐๐ต๐ฆ๐ฑ 1 ๐๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐บ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ต๐ต๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ
Start by scrolling your social media. Look for people who look like they have more money, a better body, trendier clothes, a larger friend group, and an overall easier life than you do. When you see your faults in these posts make sure to take a screen shot for later reference.
๐๐ต๐ฆ๐ฑ 2 ๐๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ข๐ช๐ฏ ๐ข๐ด ๐ฐ๐ง๐ต๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ข๐ด ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ด๐ช๐ฃ๐ญ๐ฆ
Find the most negative parts of everything in your life. Start making a list or better yet use Post-Its to remind you to tell people. Whatever you do, you can always find the negative in the wonderful.
๐๐ต๐ฆ๐ฑ 3 ๐๐ด๐ฐ๐ญ๐ข๐ต๐ฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง ๐ฆ
Do not go outside, stay in your room. You do not need anyone. If someone comes by, pretend you are out. Loneliness is the best to create the true misery effect.
๐๐ต๐ฆ๐ฑ 4 ๐๐ต๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ด ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต ๐ข๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ญ๐ช๐ต๐ต๐ญ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ๐ด
Think only hypotheticals: What ifs? What could go wrong? This is the question that you need to repeat in your mind. When you can no longer see any positive outcomes then you have reached the Stress out Phase.
๐๐ต๐ฆ๐ฑ 5 ๐๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐จ๐ข๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฑ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฐ๐ท๐ข๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐บ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ด๐ฆ
You are just like everyone else. Your joy comes when you look and act like everyone else because you want to be liked by everyone. Being different is so overrated. You will feel hollow, and your friendships are based entirely on what you want to show them.
๐๐ต๐ฆ๐ฑ 6 ๐๐ฏ๐ญ๐บ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ค๐ถ๐ด ๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ๐ด ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฅ๐ฐ
You will need pen and paper for this step. You will be creating a check off list of all the things that need to be completed by you, such as your career, home repair, studying etc. You are a doer and no time for anyone else.
๐๐ต๐ฆ๐ฑ 7 ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฏ ๐ฆ๐ง๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ต ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ฑ๐ฑ๐บ
The last step, on a daily basis, you will have to choose to be miserable and bitter every waking moment in your life. After 90 days it will become a habit, deeply engrained in your life so that it will be very difficult to unlearn this habit.
Do these traits sound familiar? ๐๐๐ ๐๐ง๐๐ฃ๐๐. In the beginning ๐๐๐ ๐๐ง๐๐ฃ๐๐โ๐จ heart ๐was so small that it was barely visible. He was jealous of the villagerโs happiness and their love for one another. He hated their little community and tried to destroy it.
At the end of the story ๐๐๐ ๐๐ง๐๐ฃ๐๐โ๐จ perspective changed. He discovered that it was more than just the outer appearance that kept the villagers together. During his transformation his heart grew and grew until it was so full of love. His view of the world completely changed that day; he became master of his own life and choose happiness. It wasnโt not an easy choice he made and almost destroyed the whole village because he was so filled with misery that he wanted everyone to feel the way he felt.
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