If you always wanted to know the secret of being miserable when you are divorcing, then you have found the right training for you. Each tool and activity are meant to build on the tools that came before it. There is no prize for completing all the activities at lightning speed. You are meant to dwell in each step for as long as it takes to master that step.
𝐼 𝓁𝑜𝓋𝑒 𝓇𝓊𝓁𝑒𝓈! So I will suggest many.
𝐅𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞: You must follow the steps in order. 𝐒𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐝 𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞: You must complete all the steps in order, to be completely miserable! 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐫𝐝 𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞: make sure you practice each step with everyone you encounter. 𝐅𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐭𝐡 𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞: This is a must if you are going to achieve the full Miserable self. You must be on autopilot – recycling the bad old behaviors and ideas that are not serving you.
𝘚𝘵𝘦𝘱 1 𝘊𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶
Start by scrolling your social media. Look for people who look like they have more money, a better body, trendier clothes, a larger friend group, and an overall easier life than you do. When you see your faults in these posts make sure to take a screen shot for later reference.
𝘚𝘵𝘦𝘱 2 𝘊𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘪𝘯 𝘢𝘴 𝘰𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘢𝘴 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦
Find the most negative parts of everything in your life. Start making a list or better yet use Post-Its to remind you to tell people. Whatever you do, you can always find the negative in the wonderful.
𝘚𝘵𝘦𝘱 3 𝘐𝘴𝘰𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 📦
Do not go outside, stay in your room. You do not need anyone. If someone comes by, pretend you are out. Loneliness is the best to create the true misery effect.
𝘚𝘵𝘦𝘱 4 𝘚𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘵𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴
Think only hypotheticals: What ifs? What could go wrong? This is the question that you need to repeat in your mind. When you can no longer see any positive outcomes then you have reached the Stress out Phase.
𝘚𝘵𝘦𝘱 5 𝘚𝘦𝘦𝘬 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘢𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘢𝘭 𝘰𝘧 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘦
You are just like everyone else. Your joy comes when you look and act like everyone else because you want to be liked by everyone. Being different is so overrated. You will feel hollow, and your friendships are based entirely on what you want to show them.
𝘚𝘵𝘦𝘱 6 𝘖𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘧𝘰𝘤𝘶𝘴 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰
You will need pen and paper for this step. You will be creating a check off list of all the things that need to be completed by you, such as your career, home repair, studying etc. You are a doer and no time for anyone else.
𝘚𝘵𝘦𝘱 7 𝘔𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘢𝘯 𝘦𝘧𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘦😞 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘺
The last step, on a daily basis, you will have to choose to be miserable and bitter every waking moment in your life. After 90 days it will become a habit, deeply engrained in your life so that it will be very difficult to unlearn this habit.
Do these traits sound familiar? 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙂𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙘𝙝. In the beginning 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙂𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙘𝙝’𝙨 heart 💌was so small that it was barely visible. He was jealous of the villager’s happiness and their love for one another. He hated their little community and tried to destroy it.
At the end of the story 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙂𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙘𝙝’𝙨 perspective changed. He discovered that it was more than just the outer appearance that kept the villagers together. During his transformation his heart grew and grew until it was so full of love. His view of the world completely changed that day; he became master of his own life and choose happiness. It wasn’t not an easy choice he made and almost destroyed the whole village because he was so filled with misery that he wanted everyone to feel the way he felt.
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