A week before I left my day job, one of the managers came into my office and told me, “๐ ๐ก๐๐ฏ๐ ๐๐๐๐ง ๐๐จ๐จ๐ญ๐๐ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ.”
I remember looking at her confused. Thinking to myself, “๐ฒ๐ฝ๐ถ๐ ๐พ๐ ๐๐ฝ๐ ๐๐ถ๐๐๐พ๐๐ ๐ถ๐ท๐๐๐?” It’s just after 9am; the day has just started for her. What could possible have happened in the 5 – 10 minutes since she got here?
She quickly left my office for the garage. I jumped up and followed her out of the building.
“๐ฆ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฝ?” I asked.
She stopped with teary eyes and said, “๐๐ก๐๐ฒ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐๐ข๐ซ๐๐ ๐ฆ๐!”
I gave her a big hug. I could feel her ๐ฌ๐๐๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ฌ melt in my arms.
She walked to her car scared that the ๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ค๐ค๐๐ค were watching her, making sure that she left the building with no incidence.
When I came back into the building, there were the ๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ค๐ค๐๐ค standing guard. I felt numb and unsettled with the feeling in the building. With in seconds the atmosphere changed from fun and loving to cold and bureaucratic.
In my mind I felt betrayed and let down. No one knew that she was being let go, except for the few of us who were in the lobby at the time.
No one really understood why she was let go, since she was great at her job. But the ๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ค๐ค๐๐ค no longer wanted her services.
Looking at the biggest stressors in life: ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ธ๐ป๐ฌ๐ฎ and ๐๐ธ๐ซ ๐๐ธ๐ผ๐ผ are in the top five. Her ๐ง๐๐ก๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ๐๐๐ฅ cut with no warning, her ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ฃ๐๐๐๐ก stability gone, her ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐ฉ๐ฎ changed, and her ๐๐ข๐ค๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ spinning out of control.
Sounds very similar to what I faced when I was told that my husband wanted a divorce.
It takes time to heal from the trauma of loss, whether a job or a relationship. Our body goes through a tail spin, but we must disrupt it.
- ๐๐ฝ๐ถ๐๐๐ your identity to someone else. You are no longer a wife, husband, manager, or employee, but a strong person who will be able to get back on your feet to move forward.
- Give yourself ๐
๐๐๐๐พ๐๐๐พ๐๐ to be sad. It is ok to be sad about what you experienced. Cry with friends. Cry because you feel like crying. Everyone does it whether they are honest to others.
- ๐๐ฐ๐ฏ’๐ต ๐ด๐ช๐ต with the negative or the ugly, look for a nurturing environment. People who are positive and caring.
- ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ are also important too. Don’t hide in your bed all day. Get up. Get dressed. Get out. Be part of your community. Do things that bring you joy. Exercise, eat healthy, don’t stop living your life.
- ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ the bigger scheme of things. Look past the present, and into the future to possibilities of a new and beautiful future.